Frankly, it's difficult to write this because if I had read it fifty days ago, I would have thought it was snake oil.
I wasn't always like this. Fifty days ago I was watching porn, the same as most of the other people here. Afterwards, like most people, I got disappointed in myself. I realized I needed to quit watching porn.
You all know how this goes. Shortly afterward, you're doing it again. Nothing changes.
This time, rather than swearing to never surf again (hah) or installing yet another web blocker (sudo useradd -D newuser ; su newuser -c firefox), I did something different.
I didn't say "I don't look at porn anymore". I didn't say "I can't look at porn." I didn't say "I'm not going to look at porn."
I decided I don't look at porn.
Notice the language there.
- I am six feet one inch tall.
- I have brown hair.
- I don't look at porn.
- I have a small scar on my left hip.
These are not resolutions to be made and broken, they are defining characteristics of who I am. What's interesting is that the way you define yourself automatically guides your actions.
Imagine having a friend send you a porn link and telling them "Thanks, but I don't look at porn". Wouldn't that be awesome? It's really not hard.
You already define who you are by your actions. Now, define your actions by who you are.
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Comment 1
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Such a simple thing that has such a profound impact.
I always tell myself: "I'm not the kind of guy who jacks off, I'm the kind who goes out and gets real girls."
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Comment 2
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That's an idea in philosophical thought I think. Voicing something aloud instills belief. When you say what you are you become it. Might take a while to have an effect though. Just have to keep saying it :)
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